The Woman at 1,000 Degrees

17 Behind the Seven Summers 1929

He who has no memories of his mother had a good mother. I can’t remember anything of my mother from our years in the islands of Svefneyjar, seven summers and seven winters. And yet for most of that time we slept in the same bed. One never notices the most evident things and yet they are the best of all.

In the isolation of that remote part of the ocean, I enjoyed what the big cities of Europe were later to deny me: safety and warmth. My childhood was like an extension of the pregnancy: Mum was always around me and I in her, although I never got to see her face. For seven years we never went anywhere. I would later be torn up by the roots but was consoled by the fact that no one’s went deeper. They were so deep, in fact, that I managed to cling on to them for a whole world war.

Mum and I lost each other at the beginning of the war, and I blamed her for it. After the war, we were kept apart by the grand dame named Georgía. Most women are forever trying to flee their mothers, but I was constantly searching for mine. I longed for her company but at the same time wanted to spare her mine. By then I was no longer Mum’s child but rather Dad’s little woman; the war had thrown us together, and finally I followed him to South America. That was the seed of what was to become my basic feeling towards that woman: guilt. Mum was a better person than me, a more decent person than me, she was reliable. What’s more I’d failed to ‘make something of myself.’

For centuries her people had slaved away on the islands, far from all schools and office lifestyles, not to mention opportunities for women. I was the first in that thousand-year-old family to be offered the chance of an education, but instead I drifted through life without fulfilling the dreams that Mum had denied herself to preserve for me. On three occasions she asked me to think about it. Maybe the Commercial College would suit me best, maybe domestic sciences. ‘Look at how well that Vigdís Finnbogadóttir is doing,’ she’d say, ‘gone to France, to university.’ In the end I gave in, took a secretarial course for three weeks, and learned how to type, a skill that has served me well all my life, all the way into the garage, thanks to that good woman.

I sometimes try to imagine what it must have been like for Mum to travel back west again. A stunning twenty-five-year-old woman who was forced to squander the flower of her youth with a toddler girl, stuck on an island, toiling away in the cold and singlehood. Spring after spring, Christmas after Christmas. What was she thinking?

But things were even worse for Dad, since there’s always the other side of the coin. Every action conceals its opposite. Although it may be painful to be betrayed, it’s even worse to betray. When a bond of trust is broken, it leaves a gush of pain at first, but then a sense of freedom. The person who breaks that bond, however, has it tied around his neck and thinks he’s free until he senses it tightening. Slowly and slowly. That much I know.

Sometimes good fortune gives you only one chance, and woe to whoever botches it. No matter how hard Dad tried, he couldn’t get anything right. He bungled his law studies, crumbled at the pharmacy counter, fiddled with his violin, but could no longer find the right tune. He who gets lost in a wood tries to find his path again, but he who loses himself has no use for a path at all.

His indecision finally ushered him into a business he should never have got into: German clothes pegs (I’m still embarrassed to talk about it). In the end it was he who was hung out to dry for having confused stocks and stockings at a crucial moment. Dad could just as well have been stored in a wardrobe for seven years. He lost a whole chapter of his life. We waited for him on the other side of the sea, Mum and I, patient women in the age of man.

Because those tie wearers could do this: steep their love in vinegar and pull it out again seven years later, totally intact, just slightly bitter. Not that Mum didn’t dance with some of those sea dogs at the Flatey balls and smile at their desire behind the building, but hardly more than that. I don’t remember anyone showing up on the island to kiss her, but then again I’ve no recollection of anything about her in those years.

But I do remember Dad, of course, when he reappeared like a water-combed angel from the ocean.