Wife 22

APPENDIX-THE QUESTIONNAIRE

1. How old are you?

2. Why did you agree to participate in this study?

3. How often do you have a conversation with your spouse that lasts more than five minutes?

4. How well does your spouse participate in the running of the household?

5. What would your spouse say your favorite food is?

6. When is the last time you ate your favorite food?

7. Tell us something you do that your spouse doesn’t know about.

8. What medications are you taking?

9. List three things that scare you.

10. Do you believe love can last?

11. Are you still in love with your spouse?

12. Do you ever think about leaving your spouse?

13. If so, what would stop you?

14. List five positive things about your spouse.

15. List three negative things about your spouse.

16. What is your favorite book?

17. How well do you think you know your spouse?

18. What did you used to do that you don’t do now?

19. What do you do now?

20. List your jobs chronologically.

21. Are you religious? Do you believe in God?

22. List your favorite part of your spouse’s body when you were in your twenties.

23. List your favorite part of your spouse’s body now.

24. Describe your first impression of your spouse.

25. Where did you go on your first date?

26. List some little irritations of marriage.

27. How many credit cards do you have?

28. How often do you Google yourself?

29. How does your marriage compare to your parents’ marriage?

30. What is the last anniversary gift you received from your spouse?

31. Describe your spouse when you first met him/her.

32. What do you wish you had known/been warned about regarding marriage?

33. Is your spouse a good listener?

34. Have you ever been ashamed in front of your spouse?

35. Do you and your spouse exercise together?

36. Is it okay for spouses to keep secrets?

37. Does your spouse do a good job communicating his/her needs to you?

38. What do you consider flirting?

39. What’s the last mean thing you said to your spouse?

40. What’s the last mean thing your spouse said to you?

41. Would your friends say you are happily married?

42. Would you say you’re happily married?

43. Describe your first kiss with your spouse.

44. What do you believe should NOT be done in public?

45. What’s the worst emotional state a person can be in?

46. Do you fake things? If so, give examples.

47. How many times a week do you exercise?

48. Finish this sentence: I feel loved and cared for when…

49. Whose marriage do you most admire?

50. If your spouse gave you one free pass to have sex with another person, whom would you choose?

51. If you gave your spouse one free pass to have sex with another person, whom would your spouse choose?

52. Do you and your spouse find the same things funny?

53. What is the most memorable place you ever had sex?

54. Do you and your spouse agree on how to educate your children about issues such as drug and alcohol use?

55. Do you get along with your in-laws?

56. What’s the last loving thing you said to your spouse?

57. What’s the last loving thing your spouse said to you?

58. What’s your favorite movie?

59. How often do you quarrel with your spouse?

60. What’s the sexiest book you’ve ever read?

61. Describe the moment you knew your spouse was “the one.”

62. Did you participate in any secular premarital counseling? If so, give an example of a question you were asked during counseling and your answer. Does it still hold true today?

63. Where did you get married?

64. Describe a situation when your spouse let you down.

65. What do you think about the current trend of couples divorcing based on spouses feeling more like roommates than lovers?

66. When is the last time you flirted with a person other than your spouse?

67. What does it mean to be good?

68. Describe how your marriage changed during your first pregnancy.

69. Write a letter to your daughter telling her what you can’t say in person.

70. Describe something you wouldn’t admit to your best friend.

71. List some things you wish you could stop doing but can’t.

72. Describe a cliché of parenthood that took you by surprise.

73. Was your second pregnancy different from your first?

74. Was your marriage adversely affected by the addition of another child?

75. Write a letter to your second child telling him what you can’t say in person.

76. How much money would it take to be happy, and does money make it easier to stay happily married?

77. Is marriage a dictatorship or a democracy?

78. If you had to explain marriage to an alien who had just arrived on earth, what would you say?

79. If somebody asked you to share a life lesson that you learned in your forties, what would it be?

80. Define passion in one sentence.

81. What did you imagine falling in love would be like when you were young?

82. Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give to your children about romance?

83. Give three reasons people should stay married.

84. Give one reason people should get divorced.

85. Have you had romantic feelings in the last year for a person other than your spouse?

86. Have you had sexual fantasies in the last year about a person other than your spouse?

87. Are you an advocate of gay marriage?

88. Has your life turned out the way you hoped it would?

89. List three things a spouse would do that you would find unforgivable.

90. Write a letter to your spouse telling your spouse what you can’t say in person.