Mice

4

The girls concerned. The three girls concerned: Teresa Watson, Emma Townley and Jane Ireson.

They’d been my best friends ever since we were put in the same class at the age of nine. We played together every breaktime (skipping, hula hoop, hopscotch, granny’s footsteps), we sat together every lunchtime in the school canteen to eat our packed lunches. We regularly met up at each other’s houses over the weekends and during the long school holidays. We were an inseparable little clique, a club. We even gave ourselves a name, the JETS — an acronym made from the first letters of our first names.

Looking back now, I can see that things had started to go wrong between me and the other three long before the bullying started.

When we were eleven, twelve, thirteen, we would have been seen as good girls. We took our schoolwork seriously — comparing our answers after the weekly spelling test, colouring in every map as if it were the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, ringing each other up after school to discuss difficult homework. I always came top of the class in English and art; Emma (nicknamed ‘Pippi Potter’ for her bright ginger hair and round glasses respectively) seemed to have a gift for maths; Jane, the most serious of the four of us, played the cello and was in the school orchestra and a Saturday musicschool orchestra as well; Teresa, with her pretty eyes and strawberry blonde hair, wanted to be an actress and was mad about drama. We talked in class, I’m sure, like all children, but we were terrified of the teachers; we would never have dreamt of answering back and I can’t remember any of us getting into serious trouble.

At around fourteen, however, the others started to change. And I didn’t.

Emma exchanged her glasses for contact lenses and had her beautiful hair cut into a punk style — shaved close above her ears, a crest of flaming red spikes on top. Jane gave up music and just seemed to stop caring about her schoolwork altogether. She started dyeing her hair black and painting her nails to match. She filled out and grew big-breasted, and when she was made up she could easily have passed for eighteen. Jane was constantly getting into trouble with the teachers, but nothing they did — not detentions, not suspensions — seemed to bother her in the slightest. It was as if she’d rejected everything to do with school and was like a convict in prison, just bitterly counting the days until her release.

But it was Teresa Watson who changed the most. She shot up to five foot nine seemingly overnight. She went from being pudgy and cute to thin and sullen-faced. Her body became lean and bony and hard-looking, her face gaunt, her angular cheekbones jutting out like ledges of rock. She started to wear clothes that brazenly challenged the school’s dress code — green ten-up Doc Martens, low-cut hipsters, skimpy crop tops that left her long, pale midriff bare. She wore a silver stud through her left eyebrow even though the head teacher told her again and again she wasn’t to come to school like that. She grew her hair long and wore it parted in the centre and pressed flat to her scalp. As her body took on this spare hardness, so something hard appeared in her green eyes, something hard and unforgiving. Something vaguely threatening.

In light of what happened next, I’ve often thought about the way their looks changed around the same time that their behaviour towards me started to change. And I’ve wondered if there was any connection. Does the way we look affect our personality? Or does our personality affect the way we look? Does the warpaint turn the tribesman into a fierce warrior? Or does the fierce warrior put on the warpaint to advertise his cruelty? Does a cat always look like a cat? Does a mouse always look like a mouse?

Whatever the truth might be, the fact was that I didn’t change. I still worked hard in class and crammed for my tests and coloured my maps. I still came top in English and art, but now I often finished top in history, French and geography as well. I still jumped out of my skin if a teacher shouted in class. I kept my hair in the same style I’d worn it in since I was nine — straight, shoulder-length, with a fringe. I grew a little taller but didn’t lose my puppy fat — I still had rolls on my belly, and my thighs rubbed together when I walked. I didn’t start wearing make-up to school like they did, as Mum was always telling me it wasn’t good for my skin. When I did get spots I left them (Mum said squeezing them left scars), while the other girls dug theirs out with their sharp varnished nails and smeared over the tiny wounds with foundation. I didn’t wear earrings, necklaces, bracelets and rings as they’d started to, as I was allergic to anything that wasn’t pure gold, and I didn’t really like jewellery — it just seemed to get in the way, and I was scared of losing it. I wore the same plain blouses, jumpers and skirts to school that I always had, with the same clumpy shoes with side buckles (Teresa called them my ‘orthopaedic shoes’), while the others grew increasingly obsessed with the clothes they wore and the way they looked.

I noticed that they never seemed pleased to see me any more when I sought them out in the schoolyard or in the canteen. When we were together now the atmosphere was different, as if they were enjoying a joke I was excluded from. They seemed to look me up and down with vague disgust, and for the first time in my life I began to feel self-conscious about how I looked, embarrassed by the doughy fat bulging over the waistband of my skirt, my little-girl fringe, the crop of whiteheads on my chin.

It was seeing the way they looked at me, the withering expressions on their faces, that gave me the first inkling — an inkling I still wasn’t ready to believe — that my best friends had started to find me repulsive.

We didn’t play games together any more at break, even though I would have liked to, as they considered it babyish. Instead, they wanted to slump apathetically behind one of the classrooms, where the teachers couldn’t see them, and play on their mobile phones, increasingly contemptuous of me for not having one (Mum couldn’t afford one for herself — I was hardly going to ask her for one of my own). When they weren’t playing on their mobiles, they seemed to talk almost exclusively about subjects I had no interest in — pop music, clothes, jewellery, make-up. And more and more they talked about boys.

I was the only one who didn’t have a boyfriend. I was fourteen, about to turn fifteen, but I still didn’t really understand the attraction. Most of the boys at my school were rough and uncouth. They played football as if it was a mania and fought vicious brawls in the corridors; they swore all the time in a desperate effort to sound tough, and tried to embarrass the girls with their gross sexual suggestions. For years we’d disliked boys and kept away from them. Now Teresa, Emma and Jane all had boyfriends and talked about them endlessly. They talked about their tattoos, the apprenticeships they were doing, the cars they were customizing, the injuries they’d picked up from fights or from sport. But what they liked discussing most was what they were planning to do with their boyfriends on the weekend — what films they were going to see, what club they were going to try to get into, how they’d wear their hair, the bag they were going to buy to match the jeans they were going to buy. At the end of some lunchtimes I’d realize I hadn’t spoken a single word during the whole hour that we’d been together.

I know now with hindsight that I should have stopped hanging around the three of them much sooner than I did and tried to make new friends. I should have just accepted that we’d grown apart. But it wasn’t so straightforward at the time; although I knew things were changing between us and I could sense their growing hostility towards me, I didn’t grasp just how serious it was — after all, we’d had plenty of little spats over the years that had quickly blown over. And besides, it was impossible to imagine school life without them. I had no other friends at school — I’d had no need to make other friends. I’d always had Teresa, Emma and Jane. We’d been best friends since we were nine. We’d loved each other like sisters. We were the JETS.

I had no idea how toxic their feelings towards me had actually become. And I had no idea how much danger I was in.