Sinner Takes All: A Memoir of Love and Porn

You ASKED, I ANSWERED:

1. What was the scariest thing that happened on a shoot?—BRIAN, 27, LOS ANGeLeS

In 2001, I was at a shoot for someone else’s movie at Digital Playground at a Muslim’s house in Paris, France. I don’t remember what the shoot was for, but I was just there to hang out and have Ali take some photos of me. The owner of the house was really happy to have a porn shoot going on right before his eyes. He was really into it. But apparently he didn’t tell his wife what he was up to. All of a sudden, the wife storms into the house, screaming at her husband and at all of us in French like a crazy person. She rushed into the kitchen and grabbed a knife and literally chased me out of the house with the knife in her hand. I grabbed the keys to our rented passenger van and bolted for the door as Ali and the others scrambled to collect their equipment. I was so flustered that as soon as I started the van to leave, I crashed it into the wall. Luckily, it was still drivable and we peeled out of there as fast as we could, laughing all the way.

2. What is the most embarrassing moment of your career?—LISA, 24, SAN DIEGO

When my vagina got molded for a toy called the Tera Patrick Fleshlight, which is a custom mold of my pussy. It’s the number-one bestselling male sex toy. I was leaning back, and plaster was over the whole area—from my clit to my asshole—and I totally farted and there was this giant hole in the mold, so I had to do it over again. We couldn’t release a toy with a giant fart-bubble in it!

3. Do you watch your own porn, and is that weird?—JAMES, 32, CHICAGO

No. This may be surprising, but I don’t watch my own movies. I don’t even have copies of all of my videos. I subscribe to this theory that once I do it, it’s over for me. I don’t save them. I don’t watch them. I lived the fantasy. It was done. And I don’t need to see it again. I’ve never even watched any of my movies. Never.

4. What’s your favorite celebrity encounter?—KELLY, 36, FORT LAUDERDALE

Actually, Kanye West was really nervous when he met me backstage at Fashion Week in L.A. in 2007. He told Evan, “Dude, I have the biggest favor to ask you. I really want to meet Tera, but I’m really shy. I don’t know what to say to her.” It was really sweet, though. I’m always flattered when other celebrities come up to me to say hi, or even ask for an autograph or to take a photo of me. It’s weird to think that Kanye West has seen my pussy, but I can’t see his dick. In a way, that’s not fair. Ha!

5. Is it weird to think that people you know and people you meet have seen your porn and masturbate to you?—MIKE, 23, VAN NUYS

Yeah, it’s a little weird to know that someone talking to me has seen my innermost parts and I haven’t seen theirs. But it’s not weird that they masturbate to me. They also masturbate to Cameron Diaz and Carmen Electra and Jessica Alba and the girl at the grocery store. Men are just visual. I’m no different, except they have a little bit more to masturbate to, they see a little bit more of me. It’s just humbling.

6. What advice do you have for new girls getting into the industry?—LEISHA, 21, NEWARK

Make sure you are making the decision with a clear head and that nobody else is influencing you. At the end of the day, you have to live with what you’ve done and remember that your third-grade teacher may see you one day, your father may see you, any kids you have, your nieces and nephews—everybody. So look your best and know this is out there for everyone to see and you can’t take it back. And don’t party or get caught up in the party scene. This business attracts the bad boyfriend, the suitcase pimp who comes into the business and latches onto a porn girl or a model. It’s hard to find a good guy in this industry. And just know that you really can make a lot of money, so invest it wisely. Don’t buy the newest Balenciaga bag. Invest in real estate instead.

7. What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in high school?—ROWYAN, 29, IRELAND

I blossomed early and had 34Cs by the time I was thirteen. So in high school one day when we were changing for swim class, a few of my classmates were teasing me for my big breasts, saying they were like balloons, and they started saying, “Let’s lay her down and pop her!” I was very insecure at the time. 8. Why don’t you speak Thai?—LISA, 38, VANCOUVER, CANADA

I get this from my fans a lot. My mom never taught us how to speak her language. My mom, Preeya, explains, “I wanted the best for her. We lived in California for so many years and it was English or Spanish, no Thai. So I never taught her Thai. When I sent her to school, I just wanted her to know English. No one spoke Thai, so we didn’t teach our girls that. I didn’t think it would be useful. She knew the colors and numbers in Thai, though.” I still know those today. But that’s all I know. Mom and I are going to go to Thailand sometime soon. Now that I’m older and have reconnected with my mom, I want to embrace my Thai heritage more.

9. What is the best pickup line anyone has used on you?—JESSICA, 24, TOLEDO

I love cheesy pickup lines. My favorite line is this: “You know what would look good on you? Me!” I’m easy, haven’t you figured it out yet? Besides, do you really need a pickup line to pick up a porn star?

10. What Teravision movie are you most proud of and why?—JENNIFEF, 22, NEW YORK

I’m truly proud of them all. But one that stands out from a production standpoint is InTERActive, an interactive movie from the point of view of the male user, which we shot in 2006 with Hustler Video. It took the format to a new level by putting a storyline around it and using real cum shots. Evan and I are big fans of sexy storylines, so for this one we hired a Robert De Niro look-alike and I played his lonely, bored housewife having an affair on him. And most movies in this format use fake cum shots, which is a cheat. I’m proud that InTERActive used all real cum shots and they were all by the talented Spyder Jonez. This movie is one of my bestselling DVDs and has the best recurring sales of any of my movies. And it won the Best Interactive DVD Award at the 2008 AVN Awards and set the record as the fastest-selling Hustler release.

11. Weren’t you afraid of catching an STD? How come in some movies you use condoms and in others you don’t?—LEXI, 19, MIAMI

I never worried about contracting an STD because, for one, when I started out in 1999, there were a smaller number of guys working, so everyone either knew them or knew of them and word spreads fast if something’s not right. But I always required that the guys I worked with not only take the obligatory HIV test, but get the full panel STD test, which includes chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and others. And I can honestly say that I think it’s safer to have sex with someone in the porn industry as opposed to picking up a guy or chick at a club. The porn guy can hand you a paper that shows his test results. The club guy can’t. That said, I still do feel very lucky that I never caught anything. As for condoms, some companies require that you work with a condom, others don’t. If they don’t require it, you still have a choice to have the guy wear one. If a guy had the full STD test, I was fine with him not wearing a condom.

12. Do you ever keep going even after the director says cut?—MEAGAN, 24, SEATTLE

Sure! When you’re really into it, it’s hard to stop. One of my favorite female performers to work with was Briana Banks, whom I did Collision Course with. I was really into working with her, because I knew she was nuts—she was just really into sex and loved women and she’s done everything—a lot more than I’ve done. I had a feeling she was going to try to “outfuck” me, so as a preemptive strike, I grabbed her first and laid her down to eat her out. I just went for it. I was licking her pussy and I was really turned on, so when the director, Skeeter Kerkove, said cut, I just kept on going. And I made her cum!

MY SEXY TIPS FOR GUYS AND GALS:

TRIM THE TRUNK: This means no trouser forest, no bad breath, and no body odor. Shave, trim, shave, trim, brush, and shave again. Although I like my men rough and rugged, this doesn’t mean stinky, sweaty, or hairy! Invest in a good trimmer (Andis is a great brand) and shave with the Gillette Fusion (five blades). No beating around the bush, boys. Shave those balls until they are silky smooth. I personally love balls in my mouth when they are hairless. You can neatly trim the rest of the hair above your member without going full porno shave, but if this is your first time trimming the hedges, you will notice that your cock looks bigger the more you trim, and who doesn’t love that?

SMELL DELICIOUS: Scent is such a powerful aphrodisiac and it’s not relied upon enough. When sexy cologne is mixed with your natural pheromones, your girl is bound to get even more turned on. You don’t need to buy expensive fancy cologne, but putting in a little effort for her senses will really show you care. I like old-school manly-man scents such as Old Spice, Drakkar Noir, and Fahrenheit. Newer colognes that rock my world, though, are Prada, Serge Lutens, and Gucci Rush.

DIRTY MOUTH? CLEAN IT!: I know I don’t need to remind you guys of this, but brush those teeth regularly, use mouthwash, and always carry Listerine pocket strips. You never know when you might hook up. Don’t chew gum, because it might tire out your mouth, and you need to save energy for marathon pussy-eating.

EAT OUT: Pussy eating, cunnilingus, going down, dining at the Y… call it whatever you want, but make sure you pay extra attention to the details down there. The clitoris is the woman’s pleasure button, so press it, lick it, flick it, nibble it, tease it, bite it (gently), rub it, blow on it, tickle it, suck it, and spell the alphabet on it with your tongue and look for her reaction. When you hear her moan, she is telling you that you are doing something right. So do it some more. Fingers are a great accompaniment to eating pussy, but sometimes less is more. Tease her and make her want it. Don’t go deep or hard until she begs you. Do not treat a girl’s nether regions like they are beef jerky. Do follow her lead, ask her what she likes and what she wants. We don’t expect you to know everything, but you should know the basics.

TOY WITH ME: Sexually liberated women of the millennium have their stash of dildos, pocket rockets, and even porn. However, it is such a turn-on when you guys acknowledge our need to explore and bring us home a surprise. Candy and flowers are still good. Champagne and diamonds, even better. But bringing home a good sex toy like a pair of fur-lined handcuffs, warming lube, a powerful vibrator, or a big fat dildo can totally energize a woman for marathon sex sessions. Advanced toys to buy: Anal love beads and graduated butt plugs can take you to new heights, but don’t forget the lube (Eros brand lube is my fave).

SPLURGE ONCE IN A WHILE: Girls love to be spoiled. A spoiled girl is a turned-on girl, and a turned-on girl likes to put out for her man. If you’re not sure what to get your lady, I have three suggestions for some high-end goodies: sexy lingerie (try my own brand, Mistress Couture, but Agent Provocateur rocks too), high heels (try Giuseppe Zanotti or Christian Louboutin on for size), and a glamorous dress (Dolce & Gabbana or Herve Leger are two of my faves). If your lady feels sexy, she will be sexy, and that’s a win-win for both of you.

GET ADVENTUROUS: The best way to spice up your sex life is to be open to new adventures. Try having sex in spontaneous places—fuck her in your car, fuck her in the dressing room at the mall, fuck her in the fancy hotel room you surprised her with, fuck her any place she hasn’t been fucked before. And don’t forget to take her to sexually charged environments like swingers’ clubs, strip clubs, or fetish bars.

TAKE CONTROL: When it comes to sex, the woman usually holds all the cards and has the power to give sex the green light. You’ve got the pussy power. We decide if, when, where, and how it is going to go down. So use that power wisely. Tell your man exactly what you want. Men are not mind readers, but the good ones take direction well. Let them know when you are wet and horny. Make them pull that car over to fuck you then and there.

DRESS TO IMPRESS: Whether it’s a first date or someone you are shacked up with, you should always dress to impress. Invest in good lingerie that fits well. (Stay away from “one size fits all.” It doesn’t.) Try Agent Provocateur, and of course, my very own private label, Mistress Couture. If you look sexy, you feel sexy and if you feel sexy, well then you are sexy! Trust me, knowing you have crotchless panties on under your business suit or jeans will put a little extra pep in your step. Also, heels not only add a few inches, but they also lift your booty, improve your posture, and lengthen your legs. So, leave the shoes on, ladies, especially when you are going to do some standing doggy!

GET CREATIVE: As much as many men love their partner to be nothing more than a fuck doll who gets tossed around, it is good to have a few tricks up your sleeve. Go back and reread the section on page 66 on sexual positions or watch my porn to get some visual tips and tricks. For example, reverse cowgirl in front of a mirror not only gives you G-spot stimulation, but gives your man a full view of your beautiful body. You may not want to try compromising positions like a pile driver on your first date.

KITTY GROOMING: A well-groomed kitty is a happy kitty. Whether you want to go bald with a full Brazilian wax job or leave a California landing strip, a nice presentation of your private parts is important. The pros prefer to wax, andI personally get waxed monthly at the Honey Suite in Sherman Oaks, California, where the lovely Dana cares for my kitty. Before an on-camera sex scene, it is common courtesy for the girl to douche before being intimate. The same should go for off-camera sex. It keeps you feeling fresh and smelling good and will encourage your man or woman to go down on you all night long. Another trick of the trade: always use an enema before anal sex. It will provide you the confidence to really let go.

GO FOR IT: Overcome your sexual inhibitions. Be a flirt, watch porn, have a threesome, try anal sex, or have a one-night stand. Experiment with public sex, give good phone sex, do a girl, kiss strangers…. Whatever you do, just be safe and be sexy! It is the only life you have, so go out and live it to the fullest. Tell ’em Tera said so!