The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

12 • THE ULTIMATE FRONTIER

My goal for this book is to give women knowledge about their bodies, so we may all have safe, pleasurable anal erotic experiences. In my research, I have come across so many women who really enjoy anal sex—the unique physical sensations, the emotional intensity, the complex psychological dynamics. These same women took a major step in breaking their silence—a silence so widespread among all of us—to tell me that they love anal sex. Then they told me why they love to do it, how they love to do it, when they love do it, and with whom (or what) they love to do it. It felt great to finally hear other women’s stories and not feel so alone with my own desires, fantasies, and experiences of anal sex. I hope The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women incites this kind of communication among its readers and that this important dialogue continues.

There are other books about anal sexuality in the works as this one goes to press, and I find that very exciting. There is so much more scientific, medical, and anecdotal research yet to be done on the subject. Just as each person’s ass is unique, each person’s particular take on anal sexuality is, too. We need more surveys, more stories, more guides, more information. Just think—the more information we have, the more anal sex we can have!

You obviously had the desire and curiosity to learn more about anal sexuality or you would never have picked up this book. If you’ve gotten this far, my desire is that you are now armed with information, resources, ideas, and some answers to your questions. Questions! People have so many questions about anal eroticism. I hope I have answered some important ones. I also hope that if you’ve got others, you’ll ask them. Ask a friend, a lover, a health care professional, a sexologist, or one of the incredibly well-trained voices on the other end of the line at San Francisco Sex Information. The more I’ve brought up the subject of anal eroticism in my travels, the more people I’ve found who really want to talk about it. If we try not to censor ourselves, we just may learn something new—a simple how-to technique or even a secret hunger your lover never thought she could tell you.

Use this book with love, understanding, desire, and trust; ideally, it will reward you with some hot, sexy anal play.

Remember that patience and practice make perfect. In my anal erotic experiences, I’ve felt sheer bliss, absolute surrender, indescribable rapture, and overwhelming pleasure—and I haven’t gotten anywhere near perfect yet. In fact, I don’t really want to. For me, the ultimate thrill is in the voyage.