The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

INDEX

A

adult bookstores, 48n, 56, 65

advice columns, 2

Ages of Lulu, The, 48n

AIDS, 11, 128-129; and anal sex, 3-4, 18-19; and gay men, 4; and heterosexuals, 4; and lesbians, 4

Albert, Eric, 91, 101 n

alcohol and drugs, 45-47, 92

American Medical Women’s Association, 35

American Medical Women’s Association Guide to Sexuality, The, 36, 38n, 129n

amniotic fluid, 128

amoeba, 33, 84

amyl-nitrite, 46

anal beads, 10, 50, 63

anal canal, 16, 21-30, 32-33, 67, 88 anal health, 4, 7, 11, 32-33, 121-129 Anal Pleasure and Health, 5, 6, 14, 20n, 38n, 129n

anal sex, defined, 8-9; etymology, 8; and gay men. 2. 4, 14, 16-17, 103-104; in film, 6; and heterosexual men, 17; and heterosexual women, 17, 103-104; and lesbians, 103-104; media representations, 6-7; myths, 2-4, 8-9, 13-20, 41-43, 102-104, 112, 120; in porn, 6,98; preparations, 16, 31-37, 77-78, 87-88, 107-108; psychological aspects, 4, 8, 10, 130; research, 8-9; taboo 2-4, 8-9, 13-14, 19, 41-42, 113

anal sleeve, 50

anal warts, 124-125

analingus, 1, 10, 18, 51, 53, 81-85, 94

anatomy, 10; anorectal, 21-30; female,

22, 28-29, 76; male, 29-30

antibiotics, 127-128

anus, 11, 16, 21-30, 51, 55, 75-76,

79-80, 82, 121, 124

Aqua Lube, 57

“Ariel,” 119n

“Ass Forward,” 48n

AstroGlide, 56

Aveeno Shaving Gel’, 73

azithromycin, 127

B

baby oil, 59

bacteria, 22, 32-33, 35, 54, 59, 84, 107-108

Bakos, Susan Crain, 18, 20n, 48n

bails, 100

bathing, 22, 33-34, 78

Beasley, Ruth, 20n, 38n

“Beauty: The Rites of Purification,” 73n

Beauty’s Release, 73n Best American Erotica 1997, 101 n

Best Lesbian Erotica 1998, 66n

Betadine, 31, 64

birth control, 7, 123

bladder, 22, 29, 121

Blank, Joani, 101n

bleach, 31, 64, 72

bleeding, 111, 122, 127

blood, 126

body modification, 113

bondage, 5, 15, 113, 115

bowel movement, 16, 23, 32-33, 68-69,72-73, 121-122

bowels, 16, 73; empty, 32, 67

Brame, Gloria, 119n

Brantley, Cynthia, 20n

breast exam, 123

breast-feeding, 128

breathing, 25-26, 78, 107

Bright, Susie, 17, 20n, 40m 48n, 101 n

bulb syringe, 68-69 butt plug, 1, 10, 17, 50-51, 58-60, 80, 93, 97, 115; cleaning, 31; harness, 59; size, 59-60, 93; vibrating, 50, 60

buttocks, 27, 79, 81, 87

C

Califia, Pat, 103, 108, 111n, 119n

“Calyx of Isis, The,” 111 n

ceftriaxone, 127

chancre, 128

child birth, 128

Chlamydia, 127

chucks, 108-109

clitoral stimulation, 25, 47-48, 60, 76-78, 87-88, 95-96, 98, 100

clitoris, 22, 76, 82, 123

colitis, 73

colon, 33, 82, 105

colonic, see enema

Comfort, Dr. Alex, 3, 12n

Coming to Power, 119n

communication, 9-10, 40-46, 82, 86, 89, 91-93, 110, 115, 130-131

Complete Guide to Safer Sex, The, 37, 38n, 66n

Condomania, 65

condoms, 32, 51-55, 57, 61, 84-85, 105-106, 125, 127; animal skin, 55; female, 52-53; “natural,” 55; ribbed, 55; and sex toys, 31, 61, 63

consciousness-raising, 75 constipation, 33, 41, 122

Cooper, Dennis, 6

Craig, Jane MacLean, 38n

Crisco, 57, 59, 105

cross-dressing, 5, 15, 117-118

cryotherapy, 124

cunnilingus, 81-82, 84, 129

Current Diagnosis and Treatment in Gastroenterology, 38n

D

dental dam, 10, 51, 54, 57, 84-85, 125, 127

desire, 10, 39-40, 42-44

Details, 20n, 38n

deviance, 13, 112

diarrhea, 33, 41, 69, 121-122

diet, 32, 107, 121-122

Different Loving, 119n

“Different Place, A,” 38n

dildo, 1, 10, 43, 50-51, 53, 59, 61-62, 78, 80, 93, 97-98, 116, 118; cleaning, 31; harness, 17, 62; jelly, 61; nightstick, 50; realistic, 50, 61; silicone, 61; size, 93; vibrating, 50

discipline, 5, 113

Dodson, Betty, 76-77, 80n

dominance, 5, 112, 115

douching, 10, 67

Douglas, Paul Harding, 38n

doxycycline, 127-128

drug stores, 56, 69, 106

E

E. coli bacteria, 33

Eat Me, 84n, 119n

Elbow Grease, 57

electrocautery, 124

Embrace, 57

emotional safety, 43, 39-48, 90

enema, 10, 16, 33, 67-73, 82, 107-108, 111; bag, 68-69, 71; coffee, 72; equipment, 68, 72; eroticized, 67; high colonic, 67; shower attachment, 68; vodka, 72

Epps, Roselyn Payne, 38n, 129n

erogenous zone, 22

Eros Bodyglide, 57

erotica, 5-6; gay men, 7; lesbian, 6;

literature, 11

Essential AIDS Fact Book, The, 38n “Every Boy,” 66n

expectations, 42-44

F

fantasy, 10, 42-44, 104

fear, 9-10, 41-42

feces, 16, 22-23, 32-33, 54, 82, 84, 121, 126

fellatio, 16-17

fiber, 32, 107, 121-122

finger cot, 51

fingernails, 31, 51, 78, 105

fissures, 122

fisting, 1, 10, 102-111

flagellation, 113

Fleet Ready-to-Use Enema™, 68, 72

fluid bonding, 34-37, 105 foreplay, 5, 33

ForPlay, 57

fountain syringe, 69

Friedman, Scott L., 38n

G

G-spot, 16, 28-30

gay men, 5; and AIDS, 3-4; and anal sex, 3-4, 57, 116; and fisting, 103-104; in pornography, 104

genderbending, 116

genderplay, 11, 116-118

genital herpes, 126-127

genital warts, 124-125

glans, 29

gloves, 31, 105; double, 54-55, 106; latex, 10, 31, 51, 54-55, 57, 76, 79, 84-85, 105-107, 125; opera length, 106; golden showers, 15

gonorrhea, 127

Good Vibrations, 7

Grandes, Almudena, 46, 48n

Grendell, James H., 38n

group sex, 15

gynecological self-examination, 75

gynecologists, 7, 122-124

H

hair, 22, 73

handballing, see fisting

Hartley, Nina, 39, 42, 48n, 83, 84n, 101n

health care professionals, 131

hemorrhoids, 41, 122

hepatitis A, 33, 82, 84, 125-126

hepatitis B, 125-126

herpes virus, 126-127

Herotica: A Collection of Women’s Erotic Fiction, 101n

Herrman, Bert, 28, 38n, 74n, 101n, 102-103, 105-108, 111n

Heterosexuality, 20n, 138n

high-risk, 3, 84

HIV, 3-4, 11, 18-19, 34-36, 51-52, 82, 84, 105-106, 125, 128-129

homophobia, 14

human papillomavirus (HPV), 124

hydrogen peroxide, 31, 64

hygiene, 10, 16, 22, 31-32, 82, 121

I

I-D, 57

Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, 37, 38n

intercourse, see penetration

intestinal disorders, 33, 122

intestinal virus, 32, 82, 84

IV-drug use, 128-129

J

Jaivin, Linda, 83, 84n, 113, 119n

Janus, Cynthia L., 20n

Janus, Samuel S., 20n

Janus Report on Sexual Behavior, The, 20n

Johnson, Virginia E., 20n, 38n

Joy of Sex, The, 3, 6, 12n

K

Kegel exercises, 25-26, 63, 78, 107

Key, Dorian, 58, 66n

Kink: The Hidden Sex Lives of Americans,

20n, 48n

Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex, The, 20n, 36, 38n

kissing, 33

Kloser, Patricia, 38n

Kolodny, Robert E., 20n

KY Jelly, 57

KY Liquid, 56-57

L

labia, 22

latex, 10, 31-32, 34-37, 49-55, 84-85; allergy, 106-107; and lubricants, 56-57

laxatives, 72

Leather Daddy and the Femme, 119n

leather sex, 5, 7, 112-115

Leatherfolk, 119n

Leland, Elliot, 20n

Lesbian SIM Safety Manual, The, 6

lesbians, 6, 103-104

Little Birds, 101n

lubricants, 10, 35, 49, 55-59, 69, 76, 79-80, 92, 104-105, 109, 121; and condoms, 53; and dental dams, 51, 84; “liquidy,” 56-57; oil-based, 57-59, 104-106, 108; thick, 57; water-based, 56-57, 104, 125

M

Macho Sluts, 111n

mail-order catalogs, 48n, 56, 65, 71

Mainard, Chester, 7

“Mandra,” 101n

massage, anal, 86; erotic, 5

Masters and Johnson, 32

Masters, William H., 20n, 38n

masturbation, 5, 10, 13, 30, 75-80

McClosky, Dr. Jenny, 129n

McIlvenna, Ted, 38n, 66n

McQuaid, Kenneth R., 38n

Michael, Robert T., 20n

Michaels, Magenta, 87, 101n

Miller, Sarah, 20n, 26, 38n

misinformation, 3-4

monogamy, 5, 34-35, 105

Morgan, Robert, 38n, 73, 101n, 103, 111n

Morin, Jack, 5-6, 14, 20n, 38n, 129n

mouthwash, 84

mucosa, 73

N

naughtiness, 2, 19, 26, 113

negotiation, 115

nervous system, 23

Nestle, Joan, 24, 38n

New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, The, 16, 20n, 36, 38n, 66n

New Joy of Sex: A Gourmet Guide to Lovemaking for the Nineties, The, 3, 12n

Nin, Anes, 94, 101n

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Sex, 48n, 84n, 101n

nonmonogamy, 5, 34-37, 105

nonoxynol-9, 35-37, 106-107; and irritation of tissue, 35-36

Northwest AIDS Foundation, 66n

O

Old Testament, 14

oral sex, 5, 13; see also analingus,

cunnilingus, fellatio

orgasm, 2, 16, 25, 63, 76

P

pain, 17-18; fear, 41; and pleasure, 5, 115

pap smear, 122-123

parasites, 33, 82, 84

patience, 10, 45, 93

PC muscles, 21-30; exercising, 23-26, 60, 121

pelvic exam, 122-123

penetration, anal, 10, 24-25, 29, 59-64, 79, 82, 86-111, 121; finger, 1, 18, 51, 88, 121; and G-spot, 29; hand, see fisting; insertive, 41-42, 61-62, 77, 86-90, 97; penis, 36-37, 51, 53-54, 59, 121, 125; and prostate, 29; receptive, 23, 28, 40-41, 46-47, 60, 77, 90-93; vaginal, 25, 29, 49, 51-52, 56, 101, 105, 128 penicillin, 127-128

penis, 1, 16, 29, 51, 53, 84, 87, 93, 97-98, 100; bulb, 20; base, 29 perineal muscles, 22-23, 29

perineum, 16

phone sex, 5

Pinsky, Laura, 38n

poppers, 46

porn magazines, 98, 104

porn videos, 43, 45, 78, 98, 104

positions, 92, 109; doggie-style, 83, 92, 98-99, 109; missionary 95, 109;

receptive partner on top, 92, 96-97;

reverse spooning, 99-101;

sixty-nine, 83; spooning, 99-101

povidone iodine, 31 power dynamics, 10, 47-48

pregnancy 37, 52

presence, 45-47

Probe, 57

Probe Silky Light, 57

proctitis, 73

prostate gland, 16, 29-30, 61

pubic bone, 22, 29

pubococcygeus muscles see PC muscles

Q

Queen, Carol, 117, 119n

R

Reage, Pauline, 6, 114, 119n

Reality™ Female Condom, 52-53, 66n

rectal exam, 123-124

rectal tissue, 81, 51-52, 121, 125

rectosigmoidal junction, 27

rectum, 16, 21-30, 32-36, 55, 57, 67-68, 72-73, 78, 80, 98, 105-106, 110, 121-124; curves, 28, 61, 93, 99

Reinisch, June M., 20n, 38n

relationships, 34-35, 43

relaxation, 10, 33-34, 88, 90-91, 107, 109, 110; exercises, 76, 78

Religious Right, 17

Restricted Country, A, 38n

Rice, Anne, 70, 74n

rimming, see analingus,

role-playing, 5, 113, 115-118

romance, 5

Roquelaure, A.N., 74n

S

sacrum, 22, 29

sadomasochism (S/M), 5, 11, 15, 67, 103, 112-115

safer sex, 3-4, 7, 10-11, 19, 31-32, 34-37, 52-53, 84-85, 104-107, 122-129 saliva, 126

SAMOIS, 119n

San Francisco Sex Information, 36, 38n, 131

Sapphistry: The Book of Lesbian Sexuality, 6

Saran Wrap, 84

Second Coming, The, 119n

Semans, Anne, 20n, 38n, 66n

semen, 36, 52, 55, 125-126, 129

seminal vesicle, 29

sensory deprivation, 113

Sensuous Magic, 119n

sex, education, 2, 4, 6-7, 14, 21; kinky, 2, 15; manuals, 5-6, 21; research, 2, 5, 11, 15, 130-131

Sex for Dummies™, 6, 38n

Sex for One, 80n

Sex in America: A Definitive Survey, 6, 20n

Sex on Campus: The Naked Truth About the Real Sex Lives of College Students, 20n

sex toy cleaner, 31, 64

sex toy stores, 17, 48n, 56, 71, 109

sex toys, 10, 36, 49-66, 76; disinfecting, 31-32, 64, 129; flared base, 50, 61, 64, 76-77; safer sex, 36, 57, 59, 129;

smooth, 63-64; see also anal beads, butt plugs, dildos, vibrators

sexologists, 5-6, 131

sexual health, 7

sexual history, 34

sexual identity, 116, 118

sexual revolution, 102

sexually-transmitted disease (STD), 7, 11, 18, 34-37, 41, 51, 82, 84, 122-129

shaving, 10, 73

“She Gets Her Ass Fucked Good,” 101 n

Shopping Guide, 65 shower bidet, 71

sigmoid colon, 22, 27, 29

silicone, 107

silver bullet, 71

sling, 109

Slippery Stuff, 57

SM 101, 119n

soap, antibacterial, 31

Society for Human Sexuality, 66n

Sodom, 14

sodomy laws, 14

speculum, 75

sphincter muscles, 21-30, 53, 77, 79, 88-89, 120-121; external, 23, 27; internal, 23, 27; relaxation, 23, 33, 59-60, 88, 120-121

STD see sexually-transmitted disease

Stewart, Susan Cobb, 38n, 129n

Story of O, The, 6, 119n

stress, 33, 121-122

submission, 5, 98, 112-115

surrender, 28, 41, 96

Susie Bright’s Sexual State of the Union, 20n

Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex World, 48n

sweat, 126

Sweeney, Robin, 119n

syphilis, 127-128

tailbone, 22, 27, 29

“Taking Him on a Sunday Afternoon,” 101n

tantric sex, 5

testis, 29

tetracycline, 127-128

therapists, 7

thigh harness, 62

Thompson, Mark, 119n

tongue, 51, 81-85

top, 96, 106, 112

touching, 33-34

transgender, 5

transverse colon, 67

trust, 10, 47-48, 90

Trust: The Hand Book

A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing, 6, 38n, 74n, 101n, 111n

Trust/The Handballing Newsletter, Try, 6

Turkey baster, 72

U

urethra, 22, 29, 32

urethral sponge, 22, 28; see also G-spot

urinary tract infection, 32, 54

urination, painful, 121-122; after

penetrative sex, 32-33, 121

uterus, 22

vagina, 22, 51, 55, 75-76, 82, 84, 87, 100, 105-106, 122

vaginal discharge, 126

vaginal douche, 72

Vaseline, 59

vibrator, 1, 5, 10, 60-61, 78, 80, 87-88,93, 96, 110

volatile nitrites, 46

vulnerability, 1, 90

Web sites, 65

Westheimer, Dr. Ruth, 6, 37, 38n

Wet, 57

Wet Light, 57

White, Rose, 91, 101n

winking, 88

Winks; Cathy, 20n, 38n, 66n

Wiseman, Jay, 119n

Women’s HIV Sourcebook, The, 36, 38n

women’s movement, 75

Y

yeast infection, 32, 54, 126

Your Sexual Health, 129n

Zovirax’, 127