Appendix SHERRY’S Attraction PRINCIPLES

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #1

Anything a person chases in life runs away.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #2

The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #3

A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #4

Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #5

If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #6

It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #7

Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #8

The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #9

If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #10

When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #11

Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #12

A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #13

Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #14

If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #15

Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #16

A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then… he sets out to trap her in his.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #17

If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #18

Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #19

More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #20

He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #21

If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take time to appreciate who she is.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #22

Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #23

Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #24

Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #25

A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #26

Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #27

If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #28

If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #29

A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #30

Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #31

When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #32

Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #33

When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #34

When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #35

He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #36

The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #37

If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #38

When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #39

Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #40

Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #41

Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #42

When you are always HAPPY;

And he is always free to GO;

He feels LUCKY.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #43

If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #44

Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #45

A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #46

The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #47

You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.”

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #48

You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #49

Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #50

The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #51

The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #52

When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #53

When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.”

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #54

When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother—and the odds that he will take you for granted increase.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #55

Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you—right where he wants you.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #56

When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #57

A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #58

A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #59

When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #60

If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #61

When you nag, he sees weakness.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #62

He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #63

In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #64

He’ll forget what he has in you… unless you remind him.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #65

Many women talk a lot out of nervousness—which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #66

Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #67

Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #68

In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #69

Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool” because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #70

The element of surprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #71

Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #72

Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #73

Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #74

Men often automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #75

When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #76

He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #77

You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #78

Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own—with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #79

When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #80

The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #81

In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #82

Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #83

Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #84

When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.”

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #85

People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #86

The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #87

If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #88

When you alter the routine, your not being there is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #89

Don’t give a reward for bad behavior.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #90

He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #91

If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #92

Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #93

Once you start laughing, you start healing.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #94

You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #95

A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #96

The tension that arises with a slightly bitchy woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #97

A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #98

Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #99

Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #100

The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

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